Most, if not all negative emotion stems from trying to control what is physically uncontrollable. It stems from a negative belief in the fact of our vulnerability.
I find that most, if not all of my negative emotions arise because I’m trying to physically control or manipulate things that are not possible for me to physically control or manipulate.
I feel negative when I try to protect myself from all possible negative outcomes. I feel negative when I try to convince others of the possibility of my dreams, or convince others of my value. I feel negative when I want others to behave in the way I want to them behave. I feel negative when I try to reach for something that isn’t available here and now, whether it is something intangible such as knowledge or an opportunity or tangible things such as money.
In each case if I could physically do something about the situation I would simply do it and not have the need for negative emotions to develop. The fact that negative emotions are there is a sure sign that I am dealing with something that is not possible for me to deal with through physical action alone. It is a sign that I am dealing with a negative belief.
Instead of realizing the fact that physical manipulation of these situations is impossible, some people double down and try harder. They’ll try with all their might to convince others of their worth for example, and when they fail they will attempt it again by lashing out in increasing violence. Actually, violence in all forms is an attempt to physically control what is not controllable. Other actions, also stemming from negative emotion, are also attempts to control what is not controllable. They are all actions that convey powerlessness and an attempt to gain power through control, which is an impossibility because vulnerability is a fact of our existence.
If we eliminate negative emotion and its corresponding negative action, what do we have left? Obviously it is positive belief and its corresponding positive action. Positive action is happy action. It is passionate action. It is loving action. It is action that conveys trust and power. Positive action comes from trusting that what is undeniably uncontrollable will ultimately serve everyone positively. With the uncontrollable all we truly have to deal with it is belief.
At its essence, positive action stems from a positive belief in the workings of freedom. It comes from the realization of the fact that freedom is the undeniable nature of Life and it works with this nature. On the other hand, negative action stems from a negative belief in the workings of freedom, and so it hopelessly seeks to eliminate freedom through various types of control.