The Youniverse

State of Being, Perception and More on Being Realistic

Perception is generated by state of being. You cannot perceive what you are not the state of being of. A staunch pessimist literally cannot perceive how any given situation can be positive. They are blind to positivity.

State of being not only affects outward perception, but also inward perception. A person who’s state of being is one of despondency will not be able to perceive positive inspiration originating from within in order to move out of despondency. The voices in their head will only reinforce their despondency because that is all they can perceive during their current state. The positive inspiration is always sent to them, but they must make the change of state for them to perceive it and use it.

Similarly, a person can only perceive lack if their state of being is one of lack. To perceive abundance they must change their state of being so that they may perceive the abundance that is already around them. There is always an abundance of something positive and supportive, otherwise the person wouldn’t exist in the first place. It is just that they have been blind to the abundance around them due to their state of lack. Our society is a perfect example of this selective perception. We are surrounded by more symbols of abundance than ever before and yet we are more in debt and feel an ever increasing amount of lack. Our experience is one of lack even though we are surrounded by abundance. A change in state is all that is needed so that we may perceive the abundance around us and also so that we may produce more abundance through the inspirations that come to us from our state of abundance. An economy built from a perspective of lack and scarcity will only generate more perception of lack and scarcity. 

The change happening in our world is fundamentally a change in state of being. We are opening our eyes to the wonders around us that we have taken for granted for so long. We won’t be perceiving anything new per se. We will instead be perceiving what was already there, but we were too blind to see from our current state. From our changed state of being we will be inspired to search for and find alternate solutions for living harmoniously on our planet. Some of these solutions are so far out of our realm of possibility right now, again due to our perception. However, when we do uncover them we will wonder how we could have not seen them for so long. 

I am beginning to understand that existence is full of every possible experience possible, but that we will only perceive what our state of being allows us to perceive. So we get to choose what portions of All-That-Is we want to perceive and that is how we create the experience called life. We create the experience of experience by focusing on portions of All-That-Is in a certain way.

As I said in my previous post, to be a true realist we must understand that all possible experiences exist, both positive and negative. We do not deny negative experiences anymore than we deny positive ones. Then it is a matter of choosing which types of experiences we wish to perceive. Being realistic means we understand that reality is filled with every possibility. However, this means being realistic is highly impractical since we wouldn’t choose to perceive any one experience over another. Once we understand what realistic means, we must then make a choice to be positively oriented or negatively oriented and then choose what portion of reality we wish to perceive. We will come to the understanding that it is only our definitions which make it seem as if it is more realistic to focus on the negative aspects of reality rather than the positive. 

Being Optimistic is Being Realistic

Being told by others to be realistic has been one of the biggest buzzkills for me personally. Or I should rather say allowing myself to be swayed into being realistic has been one of the biggest buzzkills for me. The word “realistic” is usually thrown about as a way of getting us back down to earth and away from our heady dreams and aspirations. To be realistic means for us to stare at the tangible facts of reality and base our aspirations on them rather than on our intangible dreams. In essence, it is a way of dulling the optimism that comes with dreaming or hoping or just being happy about the future. It usually implies anticipating and protecting ourselves against pain and struggle in the march on the path towards our dreams. Yesterday I had an epiphany though, that to be truly realistic, that is to base our perspectives, goals and dreams on the facts of reality, is actually akin to being optimistic. I intend to show you, my dear reader, that you have every reason to smile today and look forward to tomorrow with joy in your hearts.

Now, let’s talk about the people we get our picture of reality from: the realists. Realists are always harping on about the cold hard facts of reality. Their bible is a conglomeration of statistics about how the world is. However, as I will prove by the end of this post, their views and the statistics they use to provide their views with credibility are actually highly pessimistic and negative in nature. To be realistic in the way we have thought of being realistic, is actually to be highly pessimistic and negatively oriented. It is to stare at the most negative aspects of our lives, in the past and the present, and constantly use them to dictate our behaviour and our aspirations. The true definition of realism has gradually been replaced with the definition of pessimism.

Until today, we took the realists at their word about how the world works and the dangers they said we should protect ourselves against. We went to school, got the secure job, got insurance for everything that may go wrong, took our preventative medication and saved our money for a rainy day in the future. We all assumed that the rainy day would come, that our bodies would become sick if we didn’t give them drugs to protect them from the harsh, germ-filled environment. We assumed that inevitably somebody would crash into our cars someday and that people are out to rob us of our belongings. We listened to the realists on the news and in the government who constantly painted what we thought of as the realistic picture of our world. We grew more and more scared and fewer and fewer of us strayed from the safe path we were told to stay on, for our own sake, of course.

From this day forward that realistic view is dead, to me at least. The evidence in the true, whole picture of reality is overwhelmingly in support of optimism and joy. Where do I begin? Here are some facts about the reality of life that point this reason for optimism out:

  • When travelling, there are more people who reach their destination safely and without incidence everyday than there are who get injured or die on their journey. It doesn’t matter if they are travelling by plane, boat, car, motorcycle, or any other mode of transportation. On an individual level, there are more days where you travel without incidence than there are where you travel with incidence, and this is true for almost everyone on the planet. Good luck hearing that from the travel and auto insurance industries.
  • Everyday there are less people who experience an act of violence against them than there are who experience no violence at all. This means there are less people who experience a robbery, murder, rape or any other abuse than those who don’t. On an individual basis, there are more days where you didn’t experience violence than where you did. Good luck hearing that from the Police board.
  • Everyday there are more people who are healthy than there are sick. If this wasn’t true the world would come to a grinding halt as the majority of people would need to be treated for their sickness. This means there are less people who have Cancer than there are who do. There are less people with AIDS than there are who do. On an individual basis, there are more days where you were healthy than where you weren’t. This is true for the vast majority of us. Good luck hearing that from the medical field.  
  • Everyday there are more people who experience some form of abundance than there are who experience lack of abundance. This one is tricky to see, but the truth is if most people experienced lack in the way we think they do, our population would not be booming. There are more people that must have access to food, water and shelter than there are who don’t. 
  • There are more days where natural disasters don’t happen than there are where they do. Once again, this is blatantly obvious. If they happened all the time our civilization would not be as developed as it is. The world is more likely to harbour life than it is to destroy life. This was true when humans weren’t on the planet and it’s true today.
  • There is a larger portion of nature that is thriving than there is that is dying. If this wasn’t true we simply wouldn’t be here because we wouldn’t be supported on this planet any longer. 
  • On an individual basis, there are more people we meet who are friendly and caring than there are who are mean and hurtful. I think most of us would become hermits and isolate ourselves from the world if everyone was mean the way so many of us make them out to be. Society is held together by the kindness and co-operation of others.
  • For all the parents out there: there are more teenagers who come back home safely at night than there are who don’t. There are also more kids who experiment with drugs who don’t destroy their lives than there are who do. 
  • To sum up these points I will simply say there are more times where things go right than there are where things go wrong. Once again, this is blatantly obvious. The fact we are living on this planet, the fact we are developing as a society, the fact that our bodies continue to operate pretty much flawlessly are all facts that provide evidence for things working out. If you’re reading this right now, more things are going right than there are going wrong. The fact is there are more moments in more people’s lives where things go right than there are where things go wrong.

Now, I know you may be thinking that there are things that go wrong and that I’m being overly optimistic in my views of the world. I’m not denying that there are negative occurrences in our world. However, I am saying that because we are so focused as a society on the relatively few things that are wrong we are blind to the vast evidence of things that are right. I believe we should be upholding and promoting what goes right more than what goes wrong, simply because it is easier to help the portions of society where the people experience more wrong than right when we are in a positive state rather than in a negative state. To put it another way, you cannot make yourself sick enough to help a sick person or poor enough to help a poor person. We must focus on what’s right so that we can help others see what’s right and how to make things right. We must find out why things go right rather than why things go wrong. We must study why healthy people remain healthy rather than why sick people get sick. We must focus on what we want rather than what we don’t want. To use an example, is it any wonder that doctors are some of the most sick people on the planet? They make themselves sick by focusing on sickness all day, everyday rather than focusing on health.

On a reality creation basis, knowing that state of being creates experience, isn’t it important to focus on what’s right so that our state of being creates more of what is right? To put it another way, we cannot perceive what we are not the state of being of. We have been completely blind to the wonders and joys around us because we have been so focused on the miseries. 

So, in summation of all this, I say be realistic. I’m not taking that away from anyone. However, be truly realistic and see the greater evidence of the beauty of the reality around us. See the positive aspects of our lives; there are so many of them if we choose to look at them. There are so many more reasons to feel good than there are to feel bad. Be optimistic because the stats support that optimism. Reality supports that optimism. It just depends on how realistic we want to be.