Does it feel weird when you imagine yourself living your desired lifestyle? If it does, the weirdness is telling you that you are resisting changing yourself to become the self that lives that life.
The question now is, why are you resisting? The reason is simple: you have identified with your current lifestyle so completely that the change feels alien to you. You can’t comfortably imagine being the self you desire to be because you cannot identify with that self yet. Your identity, your sense of self, is derived from your current life and so changing your life leads you to the unknown. It leads you to a new alien identity and so you resist changing for fear of losing who you are or who you know yourself to be. This resistance is what is keeping your life the same. You want to be the other self but at the same time you don’t and so you feel conflicted, keeping you exactly where you are, yet unhappy with where you are at the same time. It’s a recipe for misery.
What would happen if your life completely changed this instant? What if tomorrow morning you are living the life you dream of? How would you truly feel? Would you feel comfortable stepping into those shoes and living that life fully? Would you feel comfortable being joyful, spontaneous, creative, loving and abundant, assuming those are the attributes your desired self expresses? Would you feel comfortable smiling, laughing, playing, and just generally behaving as that desired self behaves?
What if you started behaving that way right now? What if you identified with your desired self right now and behaved as that self even if your life didn’t change? How would you feel? Would you feel like you’re deceiving yourself? Like you’re acting or pretending? Be honest. If you would feel like you’re deceiving yourself you are still too identified with your current self or your current life and it will most likely be very difficult to make the change into your desired life- because all difficulty rises from resistance, from not being willing to change like you desire to change.
The trick is to stop identifying with your current life, stop identifying with your current identity, your current story. Instead, you can start identifying with your desired story, your desired life.
This doesn’t mean you deny your current life, but it does mean you stop deriving your identity from it and stop becoming it. Instead you step outside of it and see it as a story you were playing, which you can now change. You need be able to see your true infinite identity, which is the creator of all stories, not the limiting story itself. This happens through understanding that your identity must be outside of your life situation, otherwise you wouldn’t even be able to see your life situation or your desired life situation. You and the situation would be one, and you would truly be stuck in it, without even knowing there was a way out.
Become aware of this true identity and you will have found the key to your freedom and to the reality of your dreams.
Once again, the difficulty in making this change arises because you don’t know who you are, but you think you do. You think you are your current personality, your current story, but you are not that. You are the undefinable awareness that gives birth to the story. Remember this and you’ll be free. Remember this and you won’t feel as weird when imagining the life you desire, and you will be that much closer to living that life.
Don’t allow life or anyone else to define you. Don’t even let your own mind define you, unless those definitions work for you, unless those definitions bring you joy. You are the awareness that allows the mind to be. Don’t let others who have confused their own identity, who have become trapped in their own limiting definitions to cloud your perception. Become clear. Become the grandest vision of yourself that you can imagine. Live the life of your dreams. Live through the uncomfortableness, let go of the old limiting definitions and become comfortable with the new self and the new life.