Life is about whatever you say it is about. There are no rules to it and there is no perfect life against which you must measure your own. Your life lived your way is perfect for you.
You are here to create what life will be like for you. You are a creator of life and you act like you are an observer! Stop being an observer, looking to others to see how you should live your life or what life is all about. Stop passively observing circumstances through others’ definitions and start actively creating your observations by defining circumstances yourself.
Life wants to be created through you! You are the sole authority of your life and you can do whatever you want to do. You can also be whoever you want to be, because you aren’t merely observing yourself, you are creating yourself!
You can always live a successful life if you live your life your way rather than striving to meet another’s arbitrary measure of what it means to be successful.
The more you realize that you are an empowered creator of your experience the less you will be afraid of life. You can live fully, openly and honestly by fearlessly creating your experience of everything in your path, sharing everything you are with everyone and everything in every glorious moment of your life.
— Sohail Desai
Shift your perspective from knowing yourself as an observer to knowing yourself as the creator of your experience through these 6 steps.
- Pay attention! It’s ironic that to be the creator of your experience you must first be the observer. To consciously be the creator you must know what you want to create or how you are currently creating, and that requires your attention. Not paying attention turns on your auto-pilot and turns you into the perpetual observer of this auto-pilot rather than taking conscious control of your experience.
- Be responsible for everything that shows up in your life rather than being reactive to everything. Creating how you experience life requires being responsible for everything- or should I say “response-able”? When you are “response-able” you have the ability to consciously create your preferred response to the circumstances in your life. When you are an observer you are a reactive person, automatically resisting circumstances and pushing them out of the influence of your creative power. Reaction creates victimhood, response creates creatorhood.
- Create, create, create! To be the creator you must always look to consciously create. What you create doesn’t matter at first, the important thing is that you start creating rather than observing. The process of creation starts with knowing what you desire to express through your creation or how you desire your creation to be expressed. For example, you see the expression of an unmade bed in the morning and you imagine your desired expression of a made bed. The first step is knowing what you desire to create, which in this case is a made bed. The second step is to take action with what you have. Don’t become the observer by putting it off until some other time. Don’t use the excuse of thinking you don’t have what you need to create what you desire. Do what you can with what you have and take it as far as you can. This point may not be relevant to making the bed per se, but it is relevant to more advanced expressions, such as starting a business for example. Remember: at this initial stage in becoming the creator, it isn’t really about the results of your creation. It’s about participating in the creative process. The great thing about the creative process is that once you decide you have enough of whatever you think you need to begin creating, and you take the action of creating, you will attract more things that you truly need to continue the creative process. Also remember this: Observers create excuses, creators create, period.
- Start with creating yourself. You are your own most important creation. Up to now you’ve probably been an observer of yourself as well as the external world around you. You saw yourself as a hopeless victim of not only the outside world, but also your body, your thoughts, your emotions and your behaviours. Everything was out of your control and you reacted to yourself as if you were constantly fighting or subjugating to your mental and physical body. Not anymore. Begin the creative process on yourself. Create yourself anew. Ask yourself who you desire to express yourself as. Do you have an image or feeling of who you would like to be? If you do, take whatever steps you can to create yourself anew in the image of your desired expression. Use whatever you have in the creation of yourself. Think like you desire to think, speak like you desire to speak, dress like you desire to dress, act like you desire to act. Consciously create all aspects of yourself in every moment. Once again, don’t wait. Create now! Take action now, in whatever way you can! Exercise if you have to, educate yourself if you have to, meet new people if you have to. Remember that you don’t need nearly as much as you think you do to start the creative process.
- Create your environment. Once you’ve worked on taking conscious control in the creation of yourself, start working on your environment. Take action to create your environment anew. Make the symbolic gesture of creating, no matter how small the gesture. Shift your furniture around in your apartment, do your bed or put artwork and/or memorable photos on your wall. No action is too small because any creative action puts you in touch with your creatorhood and takes you out of victimhood.
- Create your relationships. Lastly, there will be moments when you may fall back into the idea of victimhood when things seem to be out of your control. You may be the creator of the environment of your apartment, but what happens when you meet another person and they are mean to you? You cannot control or create their actions toward you or their thoughts about you. This situation is the final step in realizing your creatorhood. In circumstances like these that seem out of your control, you can express your creativity by creating your response to the circumstance. This ties into point number two, which was about being “response-able”. Being “respons-able” means you take responsibility for every situation, even those that seem out of your control, and you bring them under your control by creating your response to them. This level of creation is different from creating your environment in that it is predominantly an internal creation and can be seen as passive to some people. Nothing could be further from the truth; creating your relationships has the power to completely alter your emotional responses to your life and that takes great internal strength. The process of consciously creating your relationships is based on the understanding that you utterly determine your relationship to everything. No one has the power to create how you relate to something or how you define it. This is your domain and you have complete control over this. You can create your definitions of everything in your life in the way you desire to and release your victimhood even on this level.
After this final realization, you will be a fully realized creative and powerful being. You will simply go about your life, creating your interactions with every aspect of it. You will create how you desire to express yourself while talking with others, for example. You will create how you desire to express yourself while shopping for groceries. You will create, create, create! No longer will anything be relegated to mere passive observation. You will observe, but you will create responses to your observations instead of merely automatically reacting to them. You will be free to live life in the way you want, rather than being told by life how you need to live it. You will always look to how you can create your experience of your life rather than just observe it go by.
You will know yourself simply and joyously as the creator on all levels of your experience and the idea of victimhood will be nothing but an increasingly distant, yet valuable memory. The idea of victimhood will remain a valuable memory for you because it will remind you how to remain the creator of your experience. Victimhood is valuable in that it leads you to being the creator, just as all contrasting experience leads to its opposite.
Remember always that love is freedom. You need no other word to define it. You need no other thought to comprehend it. You need no other action to express it.
Your search for the true definition of love is over now. Now the only question will be whether you can give this gift of love to yourself and to another, even as I have given it to you.
All systems, agreements, decisions, and choices that express freedom express God. For God is freedom, and freedom is love, expressed.
Remember always that yours is a world of Illusion, that nothing you see is real, and you may use the Illusion to bring you a grand experience of the Ultimate Reality. Indeed, that is what you have come here to do.
You are living in a dream of your own creation. Let it be the dream of a lifetime, for that is exactly what it is.
Dream of a world in which the God and Goddess in you is never denied, and in which you never again deny the God and the Goddess in another. Let your greeting, both now and forevermore, be Namasté.
Dream of a world in which love is the answer to every question, the response to every situation, the experience in every moment.
Dream of a world in which Life, and that which supports Life, is the highest value, receives the highest honor, and has its highest expression.
Dream of a world in which freedom becomes the highest expression of Life, in which no one who claims to love another seeks to restrict another, and in which all are allowed to express the glory of their being in measure full and true.
Dream of a world in which equal opportunity is granted to all, equal resources are available to all, and equal dignity is accorded to all, so that all may experience equally the unequaled wonder of Life.
Dream of a world in which judgment is never again visited by one upon another, in which conditions are never laid down before love is offered, and in which fear is never again laid as a means of respect.
Dream of a world in which differences do not produce divisions, individual expression does not produce separation, and the greatness of the Whole is reflected in the greatness of its parts.
Dream of a world in which there is always enough, in which the simple gift of sharing leads to that awareness—and creates it, and in which every action supports it.
Dream of a world in which suffering is never again ignored, in which intolerance is never again expressed, and in which hatred is never again experienced by anyone.
Dream of a world in which ego is relinquished, in which Superiority is abolished, and in which Ignorance is eliminated from everyone’s reality, reduced to the Illusion that it is.
Dream of a world in which mistakes lead not to shame, regrets lead not to guilt, and Judgment leads not to Condemnation.
Dream of these things, and more.
— Communion with God
There are those who see things as they are and say, “Why?” And there are those who dream of things that never were and say, “Why not?
— Communion with God
The human race has no chance to lift itself from its own lowest thoughts until you lift yourself to your own highest ideas.
— Conversations with God
Life resolves itself in the process of life itself.
— Werner Erhard
There’s nothing I have to have, there’s nothing I have to do, and there’s nothing I have to be, except exactly what I’m being right now.
— Conversations with God
It is important to create new and higher images of yourself. If you were filled with thoughts of what would be absolutely joyful in your life, such as traveling, more free time, a loving relationship, a physical body that is becoming stronger and more fit every day, how you can add light to your life and to the world, you would not have time to think at the old, more painful or mundane levels.
— Orin (via nirvikalpa)
There comes a point when you either embrace who and what you are, or condemn yourself to be miserable all your days. Other people will try to make you miserable; don’t help them by doing the job yourself.
— Laurell K. Hamilton (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
Every moment of every day, you are always being something. You can’t help it; you are a human, being. The question is: what are you being? Are you being successful? Are you being happy? Are you being peaceful? Or are you being poor? Or unhappy? Or uncomfortable?
Focus more strongly on what you are being rather than what you are doing because what you are being matters more than what you are doing. Too many people focus on what they are doing and end up being unhappy without ever knowing why. Focus on your preferred way of being and let the doing flow from there. This is the way to true happiness.
Release yourself from the burden of having to be anyone other than who you are. Release yourself from the burden of having to make others happy. Release others from the burden of having to be anyone other than who they are. Release others from the burden of having to make you happy. Release life from the burden of having to be anything other than what it is. Release life from the burden of making you happy. Don’t make life such a drag. Live light. Live free. Live joy, fully.
— Sohail Desai