The Youniverse

Anxious Mind, Happy Mind

An anxious mind searches for happiness everywhere, creating indiscriminate chaos, clutter and waste in the process. 

A happy mind knows it is happy and expresses its happiness with brilliant crystal clear clarity and razor sharp focus. 

An anxious mind searches and struggles for its place in the Universe, clinging to rigid structures of routine and expectation, in fear of losing its sense of self and its sense of belonging. 

A happy mind lets go and flows with Life, secure in the knowledge that it will never lose its place in the Universe.

A happy mind creates rigid structures when they serve it, but it does not hesitate in letting them go or allowing them to change when they serve it no longer. 

An anxious mind attempts  to control Life to get what it thinks it needs to be happy, even resorting to creating more misery within itself and in others to do so.

A happy mind takes only that which Life offers to it joyfully, creating more happiness within itself and in others.

An anxious mind is one that feels separate from Life.

A happy mind is one that feels at One with Life.


Feel Good

Until you realize you have the ability to unconditionally feel good- that is, to feel joy, love, passion and all that good stuff, you will either anxiously chase after or anxiously cling to the external things and situations that you think will make you feel good or you think are making you feel good. 

Except those things will not really make you feel good; they will make you feel anxious, because you fear not having them and/or acquiring them and therefore losing or never attaining your source of good feelings.

And so a vicious cycle of attempting to subdue this anxiety is started, in which you spend almost all of your time anxiously chasing and/or protecting in order to feel good, all the while not feeling good during the whole process, ironically enough!

The cycle will continue in one form or another until you realize your ability to unconditionally feel good, or in other words, until you realize that you are the source of those feel-good emotions, and not the external things or situations. 


Black Friday

The very fact that advertisers need to constantly show the happiness created by their products is a sign that the products really cannot provide true happiness.

The fact of the matter is, there would be no need for advertising, or at least the current form of embellished “happiness spews from this bottle of sugary beverage” advertising, if the products themselves created happiness. Instead, we all would simply know that the only way to be happy is to buy those specific products. It would be a matter of consequence, a fact of life, instead of the obviously biased opinion of marketers. Like other factual realizations, the results would be clear cut: no product, no happiness.

And yet, the truth is obviously different. There are always many people who don’t have those advertised products who are perfectly happy. It is also true that happiness existed before the invention of any product, so the existence of happiness is not perilously tied to the world of products, is it? 

In fact, it could be said that it’s the advertisement itself that attempts to create a sense of unhappiness within the viewer who doesn’t have that product. In other words, the viewer may actually be perfectly happy until they come across that advertisement telling them they are missing out on the fantastic experience of ecstasy created by having that advertised product.

Our behaviour, for better or worse, is reflective of the advertisement’s messages. We will pack the shopping malls this Black Friday to try and find that ever elusive happiness in discounted products of all kinds. Watching the mayhem of Black Friday, it’s almost as if the marketers renamed the shopping mall and started calling it the happiness factory instead.

What the marketers won’t tell you is that happiness is within each and every one of us, and we can choose to feel it whenever we want. It’s simply a matter of perspective. They won’t tell you, because this realization is the marketer’s worst nightmare. Their job is to get a certain price for a certain product and the only way to get that price is if demand meets supply at a particular, desired point. (I knew 12th grade Economics would come in handy some day). If people realize that happiness can’t be found in products, demand will surely fall and so will the price of those products. In economic terms this is called deflation and this is the true threat to our current economic system. 

I believe this deflation is inevitable though, because it is based on truth. The current prices of many products are inflated, fueled by credit cards and loans. People fall so hard for the advertisement’s claims that they get into massive amounts of debt in a desperate search for happiness. In other words, people will put themselves through the stress of accumulated debt, totally unnecessarily, so that they can find the happiness they are told is in the products on TV. Debt is the main reason prices are as high as they are. The more indebted people get, the higher prices go, spiralling to a point where it cannot be sustained any longer. 

It’s not all doom and gloom though. Eventually the truth will come out. The great thing about the truth is that it is persistent. It may be avoided for a little while, but it will be there, waiting to be discovered. The house of cards will fall when people wake up to realize that the new product they just bought isn’t making them happy, or if they realize that it isn’t worth getting into debt to buy products. Once this occurs in enough people the demand for credit will fall. The price of products will then fall. In a more dramatic transformation, people may even shift away from the cycle of buying and selling huge numbers of useless products altogether. Instead they may realize that they’d rather enjoy creating a system which upholds different values. Maybe people will rejuvenate their curiosity about our world, leading to more support for various types of education and exploration. Maybe people will enjoy spending time with family and friends, instead of working so hard to produce stuff so that they can buy other stuff.

I’m not saying that the production and consumption of products will cease completely, just that it may be reduced dramatically. We will most likely produce and consume less, leaving time for other endeavours, endeavours we consider genuinely exciting. 


Things can always be better no matter how high you reach and they can always be worse no matter how low you fall. Life is not limited in the amount of joyful or miserable experiences it contains. Realizing this allows you to enjoy the journey of Life no matter where it leads you and actually leads you to more and more enjoyable experiences.

— Sohail Desai


State of being is more important than the material possessions you desire. Even after you acquire those material possessions you will still desire to express your preferred state of being. State of being is the only constant that remains no matter how the material world changes. In other words: having fun will never go out of style.

— Sohail Desai


Don’t make your unhappiness part of your identity. You are the awareness of the unhappiness, not the unhappiness itself. If your identity was your unhappiness you wouldn’t even know you are unhappy. For you to experience unhappiness you have to be aware of it as a distinct experience; you have to be outside of the unhappiness. Your identity must be outside of all emotions. This recognition gives you freedom over the unhappiness and allows you to choose happiness if you prefer. If you identify with your unhappiness however, you will justify it and cling to it for fear of losing your identity, your sense of who you are as an unhappy person. The mistake is identifying yourself as an unhappy person.

— Sohail Desai


Be a witness to the love of the Universe. Take a moment and pay attention to your breath. Think of the trees where the air that fills your lungs came from. Think of the water, soil and sun that gave rise to those trees. Think of our planet that is perfectly located to cultivate an environment where the water, soil, and perfect amount of sun can come together to give rise to the tree and to continuously give rise to the wonder that is you. Think of the Sun and its boundless energy bathing our planet and making life possible. Think of the loving gift of breath offered to you endlessly by an adoring Universe. Don’t turn the gift down. Breathe it in deeply and make use of it. Witness the love of the Universe and use this love to live your life joyfully. Grow into the person you want to be. Create the life of your dreams. All the ingredients are there for you to do so, just like all the ingredients are there for the trees to grow also. Everything is in your favour. How can you not think so when the entire Universe has shaped itself perfectly to give you the opportunity to be a living witness of its love? All is well. Life is good.

— Sohail Desai


You can’t say that you love life if you constantly try to limit the way life can express itself. You can’t say you love another person if you constantly try to limit the way they can express themselves. You can’t say you love yourself if you constantly try to limit the way you express yourself. Love is freedom. Love is allowance. Love expressed is pure joy.

— Sohail Desai


Relax into the knowingness that as long as you have the ability to feel joy, peace, love, or any other positive state of being, the youniverse will also have the ability to reflect back to you experiences and situations that correspond with those states. The pool is infinite on both ends. You have an infinite amount of positive state of being within you and the youniverse has an infinite number of symbols to represent that state. So you never have to worry about the youniverse running out of things for you to be happy about externally if you choose to be happy internally. There will all-ways be something there experientially to represent the happiness. All-ways.

— Sohail Desai


Every moment of every day, you are always being something. You can’t help it; you are a human, being. The question is: what are you being? Are you being successful? Are you being happy? Are you being peaceful? Or are you being poor? Or unhappy? Or uncomfortable?

Focus more strongly on what you are being rather than what you are doing because what you are being matters more than what you are doing. Too many people focus on what they are doing and end up being unhappy without ever knowing why. Focus on your preferred way of being and let the doing flow from there. This is the way to true happiness.

Release yourself from the burden of having to be anyone other than who you are. Release yourself from the burden of having to make others happy. Release others from the burden of having to be anyone other than who they are. Release others from the burden of having to make you happy. Release life from the burden of having to be anything other than what it is. Release life from the burden of making you happy. Don’t make life such a drag. Live light. Live free. Live joy, fully.

— Sohail Desai