The Youniverse

Giving up on your desires is like a spider tearing down its web after not catching anything.

Be like the spider truly is. Make your desire stronger, keep it in good shape just like the spider keeps its web when it tends to it everyday.

Also, after making your desire stronger, anticipate it being fulfilled. Keep your focus on the arrival of that which you desire, not on the lack of it. The spider does this by being completely ready to pounce on whatever falls into its web. It does not mope in a corner thinking about the lack of flies in it. It trusts the universe to bring its next meal.

Now, it is also very important after all of this to be your natural self. Do whatever brings you joy. It is in your natural state that you can best accept that which you desire from the universe. The spider does not try to be anything else than what it is. It just continues to be itself, knowing its worthiness and basking in its “spiderness”. It effortlessly allows its next meal to literally fall out of the sky.

Lastly, if the spider is unsuccessful at one web, it will continue on undeterred to create a web in another location. It will start the whole cycle again. You must do the same. Do not give up on your desire. Instead continue the cycle of building it up and anticipating it. By doing so you only make a stronger signal to the universe that you really want the thing you are desiring. The stronger your signal is, the more likely you will get what you want.

— Sohail

Changing Your Life is Changing Yourself

Anytime you have a desire to change your life situation in anyway, whether it is by gaining or losing certain things, people or circumstances, you are essentially attempting to change the person that you are. 

When you do change your life in the way you desire, you will no longer be the person you were previously. It may seem as if you are the same person, but truly you are not. For example, a person who gets healthy after being sick is no longer the same person; where they related to life through sickness previously they now relate through health. Their thought patterns, belief and behaviour, at least in this moment, are different, making them a different person. Basically, the bigger the change in the external life circumstances, the bigger the change in the person. 

Therefore, the process of changing the life circumstances is very much about the development of the person you are so that you can become the person that you will be when you have the life circumstances you desire. In order for you to become that person, you must change the internal makeup of who you are. In other words you must change your beliefs, emotions and resulting behaviours.

This can be done in a couple of ways: you can mimic the behaviours of the person you imagine you wish to become, which then will bring about the change in beliefs that must occur to create the desired external circumstance. Or, you may change your beliefs by facing the undesired external circumstances, integrating the undesired beliefs that caused those circumstances and then changing those beliefs to the ones that the desired “you” holds.

The length of the process of creating your desired life circumstances depends upon the degree of difference between the beliefs you hold now and the beliefs you will hold when you become the desired “you”.

Desire and Fulfillment: The Cycle of Life

Life is an ongoing, ever created cycle of desire and fulfillment. There is nothing else to it. Every action we take is an attempt to fulfill a desire. The reason we wake up in the morning is because we believe that there is a chance to fulfill at least some of our desires. If we did not hold that belief we would become increasingly despondent and lose our will to live.

This is one of the largest differences between humans and animals; animals always intrinsically believe that their desires will be fulfilled. This is the reason a spider builds a web or why birds fly south in the winter. They do not give up hope in the face of what may seem to be insurmountable odds. Think of how small of an area the spider’s web covers relative to the amount of space around it. If the spider had the mind of a human she may just look at the situation “realistically” and give up hope that a fly would somehow find its way onto the web. However, we know that she wouldn’t do that. She would build her web with full trust and a deep knowing that it will end up helping fulfill her desire for a nice crunchy fly to munch on.

Now, for us humans, each of us must take a look at our lives and ask if our desires are truly being fulfilled? Do we even have true desires anymore or are we just coasting along aimlessly? Due to a history of unfulfilled desires or limiting beliefs that lead to a belief in the difficulty of fulfilling them (a limiting belief is usually one that attempts to answer how a desire will be fulfilled. It is like the spider pondering all day how a fly will fall in the web), the issue for many of us has become that we have given up on our true desires and have learned to accept more “realistic” ones instead.

Because of this we end up being untrue to ourselves and live a life of quiet repression. Think about how many people work at jobs they hate so that they can pay for a life they don’t truly want all because they are too scared to boldly be true to themselves. The truly astonishing thing is that most people have convinced themselves that they are happy with their current life because they have considered their desires as fantasy. Put simply, to kill desire is to kill life and this is why most of us are just walking zombies.

It’s time to bring ourselves back to life and get back to our desires. We must create them truthfully from our hearts and then joyfully go about fulfilling them. This is the only way we will truly develop and grow. It’s the only way we will truly live!

As an aside- As I have said in other posts and in an upcoming one, desiring a new life is really desiring a new you. To fulfill the desire we must become the person we wish to become by changing our beliefs, emotions and behaviours. The life we desire will follow just as faithfully as the undesired life followed our undesired state of being.

The desire for riches is simply the capacity for larger life seeking fulfillment; every desire is the effort of an unexpressed possibility to come into action. It is power seeking to manifest which causes desire. That which makes you want more money is the same as that which makes the plant grow; it is Life, seeking fuller expression.

— The Science of Getting Rich