Everything in the Universe belongs and is intelligently created, except for human beings, the thinking goes. Creation’s only mistake is that we as human beings are cursed with the defect of escaping reality through dreaming and the ability to create our personalities. These aspects of us are mistakes we were created with and we must make every effort to forsake them. We must restrict our free-flowing imagination, get our heads out of the clouds and face reality, or what others tell us is reality. We must limit our identities to what others imagine we should be, because that is the only way to be a “normal” human being.
For a moment, let’s forget what others tell us is reality and really take a look at the situation. The first truth about reality is it is always changing. Whether we’re talking about the reality of the natural world or the reality of our social systems doesn’t matter. It always changes. So when someone talks about reality as a fixed thing, they are not talking about true reality at all.
The reality of being a human being is that we can dream and that our experience of reality is a reflection of what we dream ourselves to be. We have usually been dreaming ourselves as separate from our Universe, as an accident of sorts, and we’ve played up that idea so much that our experience tends to reflect that idea. The reality is that we are one with the Universe and that it supports us, which is ludicrously lucky, if we are the accidents we may believe we are. The reality is that each of us is a localized point of the Universe, supported by the whole in the experience of ourselves through seemingly separate perspectives.
The reality is that each of us does choose our identities, by choosing which ideas we resonate with and which we do not. We are not like the animals in this way (not that we’re better), because we have complex personalities consisting of ideas and beliefs, which creates a greater difference between two of us than any two animals. The reality is we use our inherent freedom to choose the idea of ourselves as a limited identity.
The reality is that our identities are created from contrast, and so we need the lovely contrast provided by other personalities in order to forge our own. This means everything we are not makes us who we are, which paradoxically means we are everything we are not. The reality is that without contrast, each of us would cease to know ourselves as a distinct identity.
The reality is that each of us is in existence and that is proof enough that we belong, as we are. We belong with our ability to dream, to choose preferences and to be free to be whatever type of person we prefer to be. We wouldn’t dare think that it’s a mistake that birds can fly so why do we think this about our ability to dream? Validating our dreams and following them is akin to validating the bird’s ability to fly. It’s the natural thing to do. It is our birthright to desire what we desire and to expand in whatever way we prefer. We may choose to hide our desires and preferences, but they will always remain a part of us. We are never inherently stuck in a situation; our desire to change the situation is proof of that.
The reality is that we have created many of the restrictions we think we are born with. Countries, religions, classes and other systems are not the true reality of the world. They are our experience of the reality of the world. This experience is created out of our wonderful imagination of what the world must be like. Our day-to-day experience is created by us, and most of us do not realize it. We create this reality where it is not acceptable to truly be who each of us prefers to be. We create this reality where violence and competition is more acceptable than love and compassion. We create this reality where we work at jobs we hate for most of our lives. We create this reality of pollution and environmental destruction. We create all the experiences of conflict, pain and suffering in our reality.
The reality is that we can just as easily create experiences of joy, peace and abundance. The reality is that joy, peace and abundance are not pie-in-the-sky ideas with little hope of being applied to our lives. They are experiences created out of our ideas, just as violence, competition and suffering are.
Allow yourself to live the truth of reality, instead of what we have thought reality must be. Express your inherent freedom to be whoever you prefer to be. Create systems that reflect the ideas you prefer to incorporate within your personality. Allow reality to change in ways you prefer. It isn’t as rigid as you thought it was.