The more we allow the sub-conscious to operate the details of the form-ation of our experience, the smoother and more effortless the experience will be.
The conscious mind is needed to simply direct the sub-conscious mind, but the sub-conscious takes care of numerous important details that the conscious mind cannot deal with.
True responsibility is accepting everything that happens in your life. It is knowing that everything that happens, happens for your reason and should then be accepted as a part of your life. It is the end of victimhood and the beginning of creator-hood. It is the path to becoming the conscious creator of your life.
Responsibility means the ability to respond. You can only do this if you accept every situation rather than resisting it and projecting it onto external sources. You can then give the situation the meaning you prefer. By doing so you take back your power to define circumstances and situations and can then can use that power to generate whatever effect you desire from your life.
How do you do this? First, realize that every situation is fundamentally neutral and devoid of meaning. It doesn’t have any meaning in it at all. You have been taught by others to react to it and give it the meaning they taught you to give it, many time unconsciously. Then respond to the situation by providing the meaning you wish to give it. (Remember, reaction is a re-action, it is an action you have taken before. Responding is truly looking at a situation with fresh eyes and giving it a meaning you prefer.) Lastly, reap the effects of the meaning you have given to the situation. Positive meaning in, positive effect out. Negative in, negative out. It really can be that simple, if you let it be that simple.
Once you learn to do this, you have come close to mastering your experience of life. Life can no longer control your emotions because you have gained control over them. You are now the responsible sole creator of your experience.