The Youniverse

Friendship with God: The Parable of Whiteness

God: Imagine that you are in a white room, with white walls, white floor, white ceiling, no corners. Imagine that you are suspended in this space by some invisible force. You are dan­gling there, in mid-air. You cannot touch anything, you can­not hear anything, and all you see is whiteness. How long do you think that you will “exist” in your own experience?

Neale: Not very long. I’d exist there, but I wouldn’t know anything about myself Pretty soon, I’d go out of my mind.

God: Actually, that’s exactly what you would do. You would, literally, leave your mind. Your mind is the part of you that is assigned the task of making sense out of all incoming data, and without any data incoming, your mind has noth­ing to do.

Now, the moment you go out of your mind, you cease to exist in your own experience. That is, you cease to know anything in particular about yourself.

Are you big? Are you small? You cannot know, because there is nothing outside of yourself with which to compare yourself.

Are you good? Are you evil? You cannot know. Are you even here? You cannot know, because there is nothing over there.

You cannot know anything about yourself in your own experience. You can conceptualize it all you want, but you cannot experience it.

Then something happens to change all this. There ap­pears a tiny dot on the wall. It’s as if someone has come along with a fountain pen and squirted a tiny dot of ink. Nobody knows how the dot actually got there, but it doesn’t matter, because the dot has saved you.

Now, there is something else. There is You, and there is the Dot On The Wall. Suddenly, you can make some de­cisions again, you can have some experiences again. The dot is over there. That means that you must be here. The dot is smaller than you. You are bigger than it. You are starting to define yourself again—in relationship to the Dot On The Wall.

Your relationship with the dot becomes sacred, because it has given you back a sense of your Self.

Now a kitten appears in the room. You don’t know who is doing this, who is causing all this to happen, but you are grateful, because now some more decisions can be made. The kitten appears softer. But you appear smarter (at least, part of the time!). It is faster. You are stronger.

More things begin appearing in the room, and you begin to expand your definition of Self. Then it dawns on you. Only in the presence of something else can you know yourself. This something else is that which you are not. Thus: In the absence of that which You Are Not, that which You Are.., is not.


Friendship with God: Creating the Self

Neale: But how can I change behaviors that have become habitual, or character traits that have become ingrained?

God: By asking yourself one simple question: Is this Who I Am?

It’s the most important question you will ever ask your­self. You may ask it profitably before and after every deci­sion in your life, from what clothes to wear, to what job to take, from whom to marry, to whether to marry at all. And certainly it is a key question to ask when you catch your­self in behaviors you say you want to discontinue.

Neale: After I decide who I am not, and after I free myself from the idea that I am my past, how do I discover Who I Am?

God: It is not a process of discovery, it is a process of creation. You cannot “discover” Who You Are, because you should be coming from ground zero when you decide this. You are not deciding this based on your discoveries, but rather, based on preferences.

Do not be who you thought you were, be who you wish you were.

That’s a big difference.

It’s the biggest difference of your life. Up to now you’ve been “being” who you thought you were. From now on you are going to be a product of your highest wishes.

Neale: Can I really change that much?

God: Of course you can. But remember: it’s not about chang­ing, and thus suddenly becoming acceptable. You’re ac­ceptable right now in the eyes of God. You are only changing because you choose to change, you choose a newer version of your Self.

Neale: And a simple question like “Is this Who  I Am?” will bring me to that?

God: It will, unless it won’t. But it is a very, very powerful tool. It can be transformational.

It is powerful because it contextualizes what is hap­pening. It makes it clear what you are doing. I observe that many people do not know what they are doing.

Neale: What do You mean? What are they doing?

God: They are creating themselves. Many people do not un­derstand this. They do not see that this is what is happen­ing, that this is what they are doing. They do not know that this is, in fact, the purpose of all life.

Because they do not know this, they do not realize how important, how impactful, every decision is.

Every decision you make—every decision—is not a de­cision about what to do. It’s a decision about Who You Are.

When you see this, when you understand it, everything changes. You begin to see life a new way. All events, oc­currences, and situations turn into opportunities to do what you came here to do.

Neale: We did come here with a mission, didn’t we…

God: Oh, yes. Most assuredly. It is the purpose of your soul to announce and to declare, to be and to express, to experi­ence and to fulfill Who You Really Are.

Neale: And who is that?

God: Whoever you say you are! Your life lived is your decla­ration. Your choices define you.

Every act is an act of self-definition.

So yes, a simple, five-word question like that can change your life. Because that question, if you can re­member to ask it, places what’s going on in a new context, a much larger context.

Neale: Especially if you ask the question at decision-making time.

God: There is no time that is not “decision-making time.” You are always making decisions, all the time. There is no time when you are not making a decision. Even when you are sleeping, you are making decisions. (In fact, some of your biggest decisions are made while you’re sleeping. And some people are sleeping even when it looks like they are awake.)


Masters give themselves the freedom to make any choice they wish—and give those they love the same freedom. Freedom is the basic concept and construct of life everywhere, because freedom is the basic nature of God. All systems which reduce, restrict, impinge upon, or eliminate freedom in any way are systems which work against life itself.

Freedom is not the goal of the human soul, but its very nature. By nature the soul is free. Lack of freedom is, therefore, a violation of the very nature of the soul. In truly enlightened societies, freedom is not recognized as a right, but as a fact. It is something that is, rather than something that is given.

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This question—what is the basic nature of man ?—is the most important question now before the human race, If you believe that humans are by nature non-trustworthy and evil, you will create a society that supports that view, then enact laws, approve rules, adopt regulations, and impose restraints that are justified by it. If you believe that humans are by nature trustworthy and good, you will create an entirely different kind of society, in which laws, rules, regulations, and restraints are rarely required. The first society will be freedom limiting, the second, freedom giving.

God is fully loving because God is fully free. To be fully free is to be fully joyful, because full freedom creates the space for every joyful experience. Freedom is the basic nature of God. It is also the basic nature of the human soul. The degree to which you are not fully free is the degree to which you are not fully joyful—and that is the degree to which you are not fully loving.

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Joy is life, expressing. The free flow of life energy is what you call joy. The essence of life is Oneness—unity with All That Is. This is what life is: unity, expressing. The feeling of unity is the feeling that you call love. Therefore, in your language, it is said that the essence of life is love. Joy, then, is love, expressing freely. Whenever the free and unlimited expression of life and love—that is, the experience of unity and oneness with all things and with every sentient being—is prohibited or limited by any circumstance or condition, the soul, which is joy itself, is not fully expressed. Joy not fully expressed is the feeling that you call sadness.

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Feelings are the language of the soul. They will back up in your heart if you have a closed mind. That is why, when you are feeling very, very sad, you say that your heart is breaking. And that is why, when you are feeling very, very happy, you say that your heart is bursting. Open your mind, allow your feelings to be expressed, to be pushed out, and your heart will neither break nor burst, but be a free-flowing channel of the life energy in your soul.

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One thing that most of you have forgotten is that all things exist in the Eternal Moment of Now. All solutions, all answers, all experiences, all understanding, in truth, there is nothing for you to have to create. All that is necessary is for you to become aware that everything that you wish and everything that you seek has already been created.

This is something that most of you have forgotten. That is why I have sent others to remind you, saying, “Even before you ask, you have been answered.”

I would not tell you these things were they not so. Yet you cannot move into a state of awareness regarding all these things by thinking about them. You can’t “think aware”, you can only “be aware”.

Awareness is a state of being. Therefore, if you are perplexed or puzzled about something in life, you must not mind. And when you have a problem, pay it no mind. And when you are surrounded by negativity, negative forces, and negative emotions, do not mind a thing.

When you “mind” it, you obey it! Do you not see? You are controlled by it, because you are minding it. Do not be as children, who mind their parents. Get out of your mind!

Friendship With God by Neale Donald Walsch (via iwasbornatmidnight)