The Youniverse

Our Contradictory Efforts

What is the point of effort if that effort stems from a negative attitude? Any effort is usually created from a desire to improve the current situation, but there must first be a strong belief that the current situation is impermanent and can be improved, otherwise there would be no point in making the effort in the first place. So if you are currently unhappy with your life you must see the potential to be happy, otherwise what’s the point of going on? Moreover, if you truly and vividly see the potential for improvement in your current unsatisfactory situation, and a potential to experience a situation you prefer, why have a negative attitude? Why not focus on the desired improvement and move in that direction fully, with a positive attitude?

A lot of our pain and negative attitude is associated with second-guessing Life. We live to launch and fulfill desires, but most of us doubt Life’s capability to fulfill those desires. As a result we are mentally torn. We focus on problems, competition, conflict, lack, limitations, disease, and all manner of negativity and yet somehow still hold out hope that our dreams will one day be fulfilled.

Our efforts reflect this torn mentality. For the most part they lack conviction in the belief in the positive outcomes we desire. They predominantly stem from a negative mindset and are contradictory in nature. So most of us do not move boldly towards our authentic dreams, but rather work to deny them and instead attempt to protect ourselves from the pain and negativity that we truly believe in. It’s no wonder most of us feel like crap. 

Life continually causes desires for improvement because it has the unending capability to be improved. As Abraham Hicks would say, ask and it is given! Hold that positive mental attitude and create that positive state of being. Believe in your dreams, so much so that you are constantly and effortlessly talking about them and looking forward to them with true positive expectation. Live from that positive expectation and optimism. Believe in the infinite, unlimited unfoldment of yourself and of Life. It is what you are truly aiming for. Anything less will always leave you feeling sort of empty. 

Anxiety and the Law of Attraction

An anxious person usually initially uses the Law of Attraction in an anxious way. They pretend to be happy- that is they momentarily cover up their anxiety, while anxiously looking to their reality for signs of improvement. They may repeat positive affirmations, or do exciting things that used to bring them joy, or only think positive thoughts, all in an attempt to be positive, but underneath all this fake positivity the anxiety remains. 

Obviously no true sign of improvement shows up then, because the anxiety hasn’t truly been transformed; just hidden momentarily. The person, seeing no improvement, becomes more despondent than before, their anxiety bubbling up again from the depths of their being. Yet another false hope, they think, without realizing that they’re using the Law in an inappropriate way.

For improvement to occur the anxiety must be transformed and true happiness must be expressed, which means being happy without needing reality to improve.

This is an internal journey then, one in which the anxious person must face many of their fears in order to integrate them and become the positive person they desire to be. It’s all about becoming a truly happy person first, before experiencing the reality that goes along with being a happy person.


The act of creating your reality is automatic. It is tied in with existence itself. Your reality is created by what you focus on, and you are constantly focused on something as long as you continue to exist.

The question is what are you focused on? You have two broad categories to choose from in this decision: what you prefer and what you don’t prefer. Focusing on what you don’t prefer creates a negative emotion to rise up within you, telling you clearly that you’re creating your reality in a way you don’t prefer. Focusing on what you do prefer creates a positive emotion to rise up within you, telling you clearly that you’re creating your reality in a way you do prefer. Simple, right? Another way of putting it is that you’re either focusing on your desire and bringing it into your experience, or you’re focusing on the lack of your desire, bringing the lack of it into your experience.

You cannot avoid or deny making this choice of focus, because avoidance infers that you are trying to get away from something you don’t prefer, and this active act of avoidance causes you to focus on what you don’t prefer that much more strongly. In other words, what you try to avoid in life will chase you to the ends of the earth.

Currently, you may be unsure about all this reality creation stuff, but that’s only because you haven’t paid attention to your emotions and how they rise up as a result of what you focus on. Your life experience has been a mishmash of what you prefer and what you don’t prefer because you haven’t taken conscious control of your focus. 

Now’s the time to take that control. Be honest and pay attention to how you focus on the things that matter in your life. The most important aspect of your life that you regularly focus on is yourself. When it comes to yourself, how do you feel? Are you loving of yourself or judgemental of yourself? Do you focus on your own deservability or your lack of deservability? When you think of money, how do you feel? Are you focusing on an abundance of money or a lack of money? How about health? Or other people? Or life itself? 

Remember: you cannot avoid making choices regarding your focus about the things that matter to you in life. If the things that matter to you aren’t bringing you positive emotion, then they are bringing you negative emotion. You may not be aware of that negative emotion because of your denial, but it’s there if you realize your constant denial. Once the negativity is discovered, It’s then simply a matter of choosing to change the way you focus on those important aspects of your life and then allow that focus to work for you, bringing you what you truly desire. 

Sooner or later, you will get it. You will understand the incredible power of your focus and you will be in constant joy, creating your life with enthusiasm and passion. No longer will you feel bored or listless, because you will have stopped avoiding the things that truly matter to you. Your life will then only be filled with the activities, people, and other things that matter to you, the rest will fall away with the cessation of your negative emotion. Life will then be an ever expanding ecstatic joy, instead of a drag.

Here I grow again.

I’ve recently been reading some Abraham Hicks material, particularly A New Beginning i and ii, as well as Ask and it is GIven. Reading this material at this particular stage of my evolution has clarified some concepts on Law of Attraction as well as its connection to life in general. I can confidently say I am more joyful and most importantly more clear about myself and my life than I was prior to reading the material. Happy times ahead!

Celebrate your desires and do not allow yourself to be swayed from them. Desire is the feeling of God (that’s you) deciding what next to experience. It is the feeling of more life (or more of yourself) being summoned through yourself.

Remember again though that you don’t want all your desires to be accomplished right away, because then there would be nothing else to do. The truth is that you contain all that you desire, but if you experienced this truth you wouldn’t be able to experience any desired experience as a distinct and separate experience. You must experience the illusion of not containing what you desire so that you can experience the truth of containing it.

So don’t despair if all that you desire has not shown up yet in your experience. Know that you contain everything and trust that your desires will manifest in perfect timing. Be happy in the expectation of the manifestation of your desires, but don’t despair if the path to your desires leads you in unexpected directions. Flow through your life while celebrating the constant desires being born in you.

— Sohail Desai

You already have what you’re looking for. Stop looking for it and you’ll see that it’s true. Don’t expect to find it by thinking about it though, because your mind will most likely push it away in your experience. Your mind, being responsible for your experience of separation, will deny that you already have what you’re looking for and so if you listen to your mind you’ll never see that you had what you’re looking for all along. Finding what you’re looking for is realized by knowing that you have it and knowing that you have it is realized by remembering your Oneness with it and everything else in existence. Then it’s not even a matter of wanting what you’re looking for, but rather just simply choosing it.

— Sohail Desai


I’m inspired by mindofataurus to start lists of gratitude for what I already have in my life, instead of complaining about what I don’t have. The reason is simple: gratitude feels good, complaining feels bad. I started listing things in my mind and quickly realized how little time I spend being truly grateful. I realized that I must have been spending my time complaining instead, which could explain why I can be in a negative mood from time to time. So here goes. I am grateful for:

  • My life. I am grateful to be alive. Even when I think it might be better to die, I am still grateful that I continue to live. My experience of life has been predominantly a positive one, even if I tend to focus on the negative aspects so that it may seem like it has all been negative. 
  • The negative aspects of my life. It is the negative aspects of life that provide the contrast necessary to highlight the positive aspects and allow the positive aspects to be experienced as “positive”. In short, negativity allows positivity to be experienced as positivity, and so I’m grateful for the negativity. This means I am grateful for sickness, poverty, loneliness, depression, limitation, judgement, failure and so on. They allow me to choose to experience health, wealth, companionship, happiness, freedom, love and success. 
  • My wife. I am so grateful that I have the opportunity to share my life with a woman I truly love. I am grateful for the person she is and for how she has allowed me to be the person I truly want to be. I am grateful that my relationship with her has allowed me to grow and to understand what true love is all about so that I can be loving with others I interact with. I am grateful that she has been a catalyst for many of my personal transformation into a predominantly loving and caring person from an angry and resentful person. I am grateful that I love her cooking and that she actually doesn’t mind cooking for us! I am grateful that she makes me laugh and that she brings out the best in me. 
  • My brother, sister and cousin. I am grateful for my increasingly loving relationship with my brother, sister and cousin. I am grateful that I am able to share my life with them and receive support from them as I experience any hardship in my life. I am grateful that my brother and sister also like to cook and that I enjoy their food as well (mostly)! I am grateful that they are also vegan because it makes it much easier to eat meals together and to enjoy each other’s company. I am grateful that my relationship with them has also allowed me to understand different points of view and to grow into the person I am today. I am grateful that I genuinely enjoy spending time with them and that our time together is mostly filled with laughter.
  • My mother and father. I am grateful for my mother and father’s support as I take time to learn about myself and become the man I want to be. I am grateful that they let me be for the most part and that they make an effort to keep our relationship together. I am grateful for my mother’s mostly delicious cooking and her effort to make vegan meals for me. I am grateful for my father’s financial support and his undying desire for maintaining a relationship with me. I am grateful for the contrast they provide by showing me ways I do not prefer to be, which allows me to make choices about who I do prefer to be.  I am grateful that they have learned to accept my wife and that they have grown to love and care for her as well. 
  • My many pets. I am grateful for the many pets I get to share my life with. I am grateful for the unconditional love they show me. I am grateful that most of them are very friendly and that they seek to spend time with me. I am grateful that they make me smile and laugh with amusement. I am grateful that my relationship with them has also allowed me to be a more loving and caring person. I am grateful that I genuinely enjoy spending time with them. I am grateful that all of them are “well behaved” and quiet for the most part. 
  • My healthy body. I am grateful for my body and how well it works. I am grateful for the way it looks and for its ability to allow me to live my life. I am grateful for my thick head of hair. I am grateful for my eyes that allow me to see without glasses. I am grateful for my nose that allows me to smell whatever I want to smell. I am grateful for my ears that effortlessly allow me to listen to music, have a conversation with others, and just generally hear anything at all. I am grateful for my mouth to taste the food I love. I am grateful for my sense of touch, which allows me to feel anything and everything. I am grateful for my legs and feet, which allow me to move around. I am grateful for my heart that pumps blood throughout my body and thus keeps it alive. I am grateful for my lungs that allow me to stay alive by taking in oxygen. I am grateful that my body works perfectly and effortlessly.
  • My environment. I am grateful for where I live. I am grateful for the shelter it provides me. I am grateful that it has an adequate amount of space for me to live in. I am grateful that it is in relatively good condition. I am grateful that the washroom works well. I am grateful for the running water and flushing toilet. I am grateful that I have hot water immediately. I am grateful that my living area is heated and air conditioned. I am grateful for the furniture I have that allows me to be comfortable. I am grateful for the storage I have to keep my stuff organized. I am grateful for the electricity that runs all my electronics. I am grateful for my TV. I am grateful for this laptop I am writing on. I am grateful for the Internet and the fact that I have Internet at home. I am grateful for my Wii that allows me to play games and be entertained. I am grateful that I have laundry machines, a fridge, a stove, a dishwasher, and various food preparation appliances. On a larger scale, I am grateful for the city I live in and all the convenient amenities it provides. I am grateful for the stores that allow me to conveniently buy  the stuff I need. I am grateful for the paved roads and the street lighting. I am grateful that the city is relatively clean. I am grateful for the trees and plants that line the streets. I am grateful for the parks that I can spend time in. I am grateful for the beach and lake. I am grateful that the city I live in is a safe city and that the country I live in is one that provides many freedoms and opportunities. I am grateful that my city is one of the most multi-cultural cities in the world. I am grateful for the planet itself and all that it provides for me to continue living. I am grateful for the abundance of air, water, soil and sunlight that allows everything to live. I am grateful that the weather is relatively calm and comfortable. I am grateful that we have day and night. I am grateful for the stars and moon at night.
  • My clothing. I am grateful that I got to choose the kind of clothes I prefer and that they keep me cool or warm depending on what I prefer. I am grateful for the shoes I have that keep my feet comfortable and protected. 
  • My customers. I am grateful for the great customers I have who provide me with money. I am grateful that my customers are friendly people that genuinely appreciate my service. I am grateful that I have customers to provide a service to in the first place.

This is a good start for now. I will continue this list in the days or weeks to come. The thing is, once the ball starts rolling I can see so much more to be grateful for. I truly take many things for granted and I realize now how much more difficult my life would be without them. This is exactly what I was hoping for! :)

You are a three aspect be-ing. These aspects are: body, mind and soul. Any time you imagine a way you would like to be (notice I said “be” and not “do”), you are literally giving birth to that be-ing and you be-come it.

When you imagine the way you would like to be and decide to be-come that be-ing, you have set the soul aspect of you to be that way. If you then maintain that state of be-ing your mind aspect will receive inspiration in the form of thoughts and emotions that are in alignment with the state of being your soul is already in. Lastly, your mind will then decide whether to act these thoughts out through your body aspect and create the be-haviour representative of the be-ing you now have chosen to be on the soul level. This then closes the circuit and you have fully be-come the be-ing you desired to be. Your reality will reflect the situations and circumstances necessary for you to continue be-ing who and what you now are, until you choose to give birth to a new be-ing.

Each time you imagine and become another be-ing you actually literally are a completely new be-ing. You are not the same be-ing you were a moment ago, with a little difference, unless you be-lieve you are. If you truly think about it, you cannot, by definition, be the be-ing that was here a moment ago. That be-ing had a completely different set of be-liefs, thoughts and be-haviours.

This is the essence of what is meant when metaphysical speakers say you are an infinite and powerful be-ing. The infiniteness you are is the unlimited number of variations in states of be-ing that you can choose from to create who you choose to be. The power you have is the irrevocable and unlimited power to choose the be-ing you wish to be. You truly are an infinite and powerful be-ing! Take that knowledge to heart and act like you are!

— Sohail Desai

Everyone is blindly running around listening to what others tell them is their purpose. They read “sacred” books which apparently contain the commandments of God regarding how they should live their lives. They strive to be as close to the image portrayed to them through advertising of what a “perfect” human being is. They chase after the things they think they need solely to fulfill the purpose of being this perfect human being. What happens when they match that image? Is there some ecstatic reward that comes with achieving the perfect life? Has anybody achieved it yet? No, nobody has reached perfection because there is no such thing. The advertised image of perfection is constantly changing and so this chase for more clothes, better looks, bigger houses, and whatnot goes on forever in misery.

If only the people would realize that they do not need to look to others to find their purpose because they have their own direct feed of knowledge. They have been receiving direct messages from within themselves about how to fulfill their purpose. Those messages have been and are still conveyed through their emotions. If only they followed their emotions they would quickly see that their only purpose is to be themselves by choosing to express themselves in whatever way they wish. They would realize that they do not need to strive to become some perfect human being because they are perfect as they are. The would see that the only reward for doing anything is the joyous feeling they generate when they do it. They would see that the image of the “perfect” human does not get them any extra reward if they achieve it. The reward is joy and there is no reason to put off feeling it until sometime in the future.

Now, I’m not saying it is “bad” to want the things people want, myself included. However, it is ignorant to believe those things can bring us joy. They can be representative of our joy, but they cannot bring us joy.

Joy is in the journey. It is in being who we are, right here, right now. The people who understand this live lives of joy and ecstasy. The people who don’t, chase after what they think will bring them joy, then feel cheated after they achieved it and realized it didn’t bring them any miraculous reward with it. God’s reward is joy. Joy is found in being who you prefer to be. In other words: you are rewarded for being you. How wonderfully simple is that? No more need for striving or struggling. Just feel the joyous ecstasy of being, forever and ever.

Bashar on Expectations

Bashar: Expectations

Q: What is. can you address the subject of expectation?

B: Ah! Many times it is only another form of judgment. The placing
of a rigidized structure on something, the saying that it has to
happen this way, or it will not be valid: therefore, it may not
happen at all.

Q: So it’s like a form of pre-judgment?

B: Yes. For recognize simply that when you have something that
excites you and you form a visualization, or some sort of a symbolic
interpretation of that idea, you do not need to have it manifest
exactly as you have visualized it to get the same effect.

Even though, paradoxically many times, when you allow it to manifest
in whatever way it can manifest, many times you will find that you
are, quote/unquote, accurate, and it will manifest exactly as you
have pictured it. But it does not have to. Expectation is saying it
has to, thus closing all the other doors through which it may have
manifested more easily than you were able to actually visualize it.

Q: Okay. Thank you.

B: Well, thank you very much.


Surrendering to life is the feeling of letting go of expectations and conditions on how life should work and instead allowing it to work following the path of least resistance. It feels like you’re not doing anything in particular, because your actions are predominantly based on joy in the present, rather than based on controlling the outcome in the future. This can be a little disconcerting, especially since we have been so focused on taking action with the intention of controlling the outcome of our lives for so long.

Surrendering feels like the absence of all resistance to life. It is being open and vulnerable, which can be a very scary feeling, but it is actually the feeling of liberation. When you are no longer so focused on making life work, you are free of being attached to any particular outcome. You take it for granted that the outcome is ultimately guaranteed, even if the path leading to the outcome is a meandering one.

Surrendering is the acceptance of all your power. This is because being infinitely powerful feels like a complete sense of effortlessness and peace. This doesn’t mean you sit and meditate all day long. It means you take actions that bring you joy, with integrity, and with no expectations attached to that action as to what that action will get you. In surrender you let go of the illusion of power, which used to be exercised by attempting to push and pull life to make it all fit, and claim your true power, which comes with the realization that it all fits perfectly already.

Surrendering to life is being connected to all possibilities in life. By having no expectations in life you open up to all that life has to offer. By surrendering, you become more conscious of your connection to all possibilities in life, which strangely feels the same as not being connected to any possibility. No one possibility stands out as a connection and so this gives rise to the feeling of not being connected at all.

When you are connected to all of life in the act of surrender, the slightest desire you express brings forth the types of possibilites connected to that desire. There is no resistance to overcome and so life effortlessly flows through you to express the manifestation of your desire. In the act of unconditional surrender, you fully realize your God-hood.

What is Your Purpose?

What is your purpose in life? The answer is, you get to make up whatever your purpose is! There are NO expectations of you, whatsoever. You are given the free-will to choose whatever you want to do and whatever you want to experience in life. This is what it means to be unconditionally loved by God, or whatever you call God. Unconditional love is freedom. It is being completely and fully validated in all of your choices, even if you choose to use that validation to choose to invalidate yourself.

You are completely and utterly free to be yourself. So stop looking outside of yourself for validation before giving yourself permission to simply be who you are. Be yourself and know that you are supported by all of existence. Trust that you are supported. The proof is in your existence. If you weren’t supported, you wouldn’t exist. It is as simple as that. 

Now, when I say trust that you are supported, I mean trusting by letting go of expectations on how you will be supported. Be yourself with no expectations on what form the support will come. As I’ve said in previous posts, having expectations is the easiest way to limit yourself and to put conditions on yourself.

Having expectations is a way of allowing only certain actions to be taken, because you believe only those actions will get you the support you need. It is not giving yourself the freedom to choose to express yourself in whatever way you want. It is, once again, believing you are not unconditionally loved and supported. It is putting the answer to who you can be or the answer to what your purpose is outside yourself, rather than within yourself. It is giving your power away to your reality and it is a great way to be miserable. 

So allow yourself to take back your power and to choose your purpose. Choose to be yourself simply because you enjoy being yourself, not because it will get you support from existence. You already are supported! Do the things that are representative of who you choose to be, simply for the joy of doing those things. Allow your reality to reflect positive support to you without having any expectations on the form of the support. Be unconditionally loving to yourself and lighten up on yourself and see that unconditional love reflected in your experience. It can be as simple as that.