“Stay centered in acceptance of the Here and Now. Not because you want to reach some “spiritual” goal, but for your own joy and peace. Choose what you prefer from what is available to you- without resisting your choice with thoughts of what “should” be or what “could” be. There is no end to the road of resisting the Here and Now. There is no end to all that noise. This is why your mind keeps running. This is why you feel lost and confused. Stay centered and let everything else go.”—
People are living in a dream and thinking it is the only reality. They don’t see that the reality they think is so solid is actually nothing more than flimsy, malleable ideas and perspectives. They reject new perspectives and resist change as much as they can, because they are afraid. They are afraid that life will have no meaning without the normal narrative they’ve been playing out. They feel they will be lost. They feel they won’t know who they are anymore. They are right, but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It is wonderful that we can change the narrative at any time. It means we can live lives that we truly prefer rather than pretending to prefer what we really hate.
Prepare yourself. Step outside the normal narrative. Get used to the unknown. Get used to being lost. Get used to being creative rather than reactive. We are moving into a new paradigm.
There is a sweeping change that is taking place. Narratives that are thousands of years old are coming to an end. Separation, fear, anxiety and other forms of negativity have been played out almost as fully as they can, without actually destroying ourselves. There is nothing more to discover in the dark, so now we’re moving into the light. It can be uncomfortable to make this change- like stepping into the daylight from a pitch black cave. But we will see so many more wonders in the light than we have seen in the darkness.
A vast world is opening up before us. Nothing will ever be the same.
I just wanted to let you know that I love your blog. Not that many people focus on the light and it's nice to know that there are people out there who are truly dedicated to bringing out the best in themselves and everyone around them. Thank you!
Thank you very much for your kind words! I really appreciate them!
It’s partly encouragement like yours that inspires me to continue writing. I am also inspired to share by my feeling that an increasing number of people will be attracted to this kind of information and perhaps be inspired to let go of guilt and fear and to be who they really desire to be.
I really feel the greatest service we can currently offer our pessimistic world is to truly be positive by inspiring others and allowing others to inspire us. Thank you again for inspiring me with your message!
“Fear pretends to be an option, but it is not. Fear is the energy of segregation and separation, but all separation is really an illusion. Everything is connected to everything else, so the only real option is unity and love.”—
To truly know and experience the light you must also truly know and experience the darkness. If light was all there was it couldn’t be experienced. For light to be experienced darkness must also exist.
To truly and intimately know and experience the darkness- and know the light- you must paradoxically forget about the light. You must become so used to the pain of darkness that you forget there is a way out, because otherwise you will naturally, quickly and effortlessly move towards the joy of the light and cease experiencing the pain of darkness.
This is where many of us are at- doubting the ways out of the darkness because we’re so used to it. We doubt the light even exists, calling it too good to be true and staying in the darkness longer because we’re afraid of leaving it. The cycle of darkness is totally based on fear. We are so used to the fear that we’re even afraid of moving away from it.
All experience of darkness is the result of forgetting about or denying the light. All experience of light, on the other hand, is the result of remembering both the darkness and the light, realizing that the darkness is a choice and a way to experience what the light is, and then choosing the light.
The darkness fears the light and sees it as a threat to its existence. The light loves the darkness and sees it as a way to experience its own existence.
Knowing and experiencing the light is natural to you. Moving towards it is just the process of letting go of fear and remembering the light is there now, and always has been there.
I find myself having conversations with people where I seem to be "casting pearls before swine". In your experience does it make any difference to share about such topics with people who are not as conscious? I feel divided in that, I get frustrated if I'm not able to convey the message, because I feel we are all souls capable of grasping these things, if nothing else, subconsciously...but I also sometimes feel I'm wasting my time and giving them too much credit.
Sorry for the delayed response!
In my experience I have learned to share what I feel like sharing- my joy and my passion- without any expectations about what people get from it. People who aren’t that conscious probably will not get most of what I have to say- and that is ok! It is not up to me what they get from me or how much. This lack of expectations keeps interactions with others light and easy instead of forceful and manipulative. I feel it is the joy, love and passion behind what is said that is more important than what is actually said anyway. It’s just about being strong enough to be honest in deciphering whether you are being joyful or fearful in your interactions.
Trying to get others to understand your message usually comes from fear and I don’t think anybody really wants to listen to a fearful person anyway. People who are looking for something are usually looking for inspiration, joy, passion and love. They are probably already in some state of fear and they are searching for a way out- so there is no point in joining them at that level when you have the opportunity and the willingness to help them out. You may not even need to help them out consciously. Many times people you don’t even know will be inspired by your state of being, just by coming across your work or in some other random way. I know I have been inspired by many joyful people who aren’t “spiritual” at all and who have no idea that they have inspired me. They just go about their lives in a passionate way and they naturally inspire people who aren’t passionate- as I was not too long ago. The fact is that some people will lead a joyful, loving and fulfilling life without ever coming across spiritual concepts. Does it really matter if they do? They are expressing joy and love in their own unique way and that is fine!
The funny thing is, the more freedom you give people to be who they want to be, by releasing them from any expectations, the more likely they will listen to you and gravitate to you because of the freedom you offer them. People love to hang out with people who are joyful, loving and passionate. It’s the energy they want. Focus on the energy you give off and forget about the rest. There is nothing wrong if your interaction is joyful and loving and doesn’t ever cover any spiritual concepts. Lighten up about all this! :)
I have been getting this feeling that everybody I meet or already know is an awesome person who doesn’t know they’re awesome. It’s like they’re holding onto this shallow limited identity of themselves and pretending that is all they are, when they are really so much more. There is so much more depth in each person that isn’t being expressed because of doubt and fear. There is this constant urge to be more- to express and experience the infinite depth of our beings and be the highest self we can be now- that is actively being repressed because we live in fear.
“Do not seek to change. Seeking to change keeps your awareness on what you’re trying to change from, and that awareness keeps you the same. To change you need to not need to change. Just change without even saying you’re changing. Just start being who you want to be.”—
“You get what you give. The more clarity you have about what you’re giving off- in terms of your vibration- the more fully you can follow your joy, knowing the situations and circumstances you face will only be reflective of the joyful vibration you are giving off. This is why circumstances really don’t matter on their own. Only state of being matters!”—
The biggest trouble with needing approval, or needing anything else for that matter, is that you end up losing your sense of self. You end up being who you think you need to be in order to have what you think you need to have rather than just unconditionally being who you really want to be. Pretty soon you end up miserable, resenting the stuff you think you need because it is costing you the joy, clarity and enthusiasm that comes with being you. That’s the stuff that really makes your life worth living.
Ask a person who thought they desperately needed a certain outcome in their life and then failed, why do they feel good after losing the possibility of experiencing what they thought they needed? Ask a parent why they are sincerely bittersweet or outright relieved when their child goes to school for the first time. Ask an adult child why they feel the same way when their sick, aging parent passes away after they had been caring for them for a while. While there is an undeniable sadness in these situations, there is also a joy, because each person is freed from what they thought they needed to be. They are freed to make new choices, and to be who they now want to be through those new choices.
Each person wants nothing more than to be his or her true self as fully as he or she can.
“We overestimate the effects of our physical actions because we are afraid of being out of control. When we cannot physically act on something and come to face our lack of control we are far more likely to anticipate negative scenarios.”—
“You know those situations where your back is against the wall and you have no idea how you’ll get out? You create those situations and put yourself in them so that you’ll have an incentive to dig deep and find your way out. Those situations show you the true power and creativity you always have within you that you may never have discovered in any other way. Your creativity knows no bounds. You always know what you’re doing, even if you don’t think you do.”—
“Life is always more than you think it is. Your experience of Life, however, is what you think it is. Thankfully your experience of Life is not Life though. Otherwise you would never be able to change your experience. You would be stuck in a particular experience, a particular series of thoughts. Sometimes we confuse ourselves by thinking our experience of Life is Life itself, causing ourselves to be miserable. Break free from this illusion by changing the aspects of your life that you don’t prefer.”—
“Challenges and mistakes are creative. You bring them into your experience to give you an incentive to create solutions. In the creating of solutions you develop yourself into the person you desire to be.”—
Fear and guilt are the only things stopping you from expressing your authentic self- the self you truly desire to be.
Fear stops you because you’re afraid that expressing your authentic self will hurt others or yourself. Fear says “What if horrible things happen when I express my authentic self?” It doesn’t see that horrible things- misery, depression, hostility, conflict, and more- are already occurring precisely because the authentic self is not being expressed.
Guilt stops you because it clouds the greatness of the powerful and joyful authentic self within you with memories of your shortcomings and failures. Guilt ties in with doubts about your abilities. It makes you small and dis-empowered. It tries to protect you from making further mistakes so that you don’t feel even worse. It says “How can I be great? I have made so many mistakes and had so many failures before. It’s better for everyone that I just follow others’ directions for me. Then if I fail it is on them, not on me.” Guilt tries to make you feel undeserving of the greatness within you. It constantly calls you imperfect. It also tries to avoid responsibility, and true power can never be expressed without also accepting responsibility for the expression of that power.
I believe each person yearns to express their authentic self. They want to express their creativity, joy, passion, love and power more than anything else. In order to do so each person must unconditionally accept themselves so that they do not feel guilty when they make mistakes (and they will make mistakes). They must also accept responsibility for their individual lives so that they can express their true power rather than just meekly following others around in order to avoid feeling guilty. They must also be cautious but not fearful, so that they can relax enough to express their authentic self without being overcome by fear of negative outcomes.
“As long as the Unknown remains, anything is possible. The Unknown goes hand-in-hand with your freedom and your infinite creativity. Dive into the Unknown, open and vulnerable. Let its infinite possibilities free you from your limitation.”—
“Our fear of the Unknown is illogical. Our fear says there is something known about the Unknown that causes us to fear it. It says that the Unknown is full of horrible things and that we must try to avoid the Unknown because of this. That is our illusion. The truth is there is nothing truly known about the Unknown. That’s why it’s called the Unknown.”—
“The world needs more examples of the free human spirit. Embody that free spirit by being creative with your life rather than being reactive. Think for yourself. Respond to life in the way you prefer to instead of automatically reacting to everything. Remember: reaction is limitation. Response is freedom.”—
“There are two fundamental abilities necessary for a successful life: the ability to observe honestly and the ability to respond. Every successful action is based on honest observation and responding based on what is observed.”—
“We usually think of surrendering and letting go as something that makes us less, but in actuality it makes us infinitely more. Getting out of our own way by letting go of our expectations and our assumptions always leads to the possibility for growth. In fact it is the only way to grow.”—
“We’ve all been there at some point: wanting to change but hopelessly stuck in a rut. The feeling can be very discouraging and sometimes even downright depressing. Where does this problem come from though? What really stops you from changing? Is it your life situation? Maybe your lack of money? Maybe it’s your dead-end job? Or maybe it’s something else? Many times, the source is uncertain and ever-changing. But what if the uncertainty of the problem’s source means it is something much closer to you? What if it’s something you are so familiar with that you don’t even know it’s there any longer? What if the only thing stopping you is actually you and your perspective? ”—
“All experience happens only through change. Yet many of us are resistant to change and are anxiously trying to keep things the same. Or we are trying to reach some goal that we think will complete us, forgetting that the achieved goal must also change. Life goes on, whether we reach that ultimate goal or not, because everything must change. Everything is change, expressing itself by changing forms.
The nature of your experience, then, is directly related to the nature of your relationship to the notion of change. What comes to mind when you think of the word “change”? Be honest. Your answer determines pretty much everything about your experience of Life.
The more you open up and allow change to happen, while flowing with the change, the happier you will be.”—
“In each moment you can perceive that you have no choice, which leads to automatic reaction, or you can perceive that you have choice, which leads to conscious response. Reaction puts the responsibility for your life experience outside of you, either on the situation or on others who taught you how to automatically react. Response puts the responsibility squarely on yourself, because you realize it is ultimately you who decides how to interact with any given situation.”—
“Going out of your mind is not insanity. It is pure, perfect sanity. Insanity still requires thought and mind. People behaving insanely have not gone out of their mind, they have become overly attached to a disintegrated mind so that they automatically react insanely. Insane people still need to go out of their mind, perhaps more so than the so-called sane people.”—
“You are not any particular choice. You are all choices. You are the center point from which all choices emanate. You are the actual ability to choose. To choose is to express your nature. Anything that infringes on your ability to choose infringes on your nature. Unconscious living is living by reacting. Reacting is the giving up of choice. Therefore you will always seek to be conscious and to open up choices for yourself. You will always seek to respond instead of react.”—
After reading some suggestions posted by lazyyogi about practical things to do to be happy, I decided to try one out that I haven’t tried before. That suggestion was to laugh hard for no particular reason when I got up in the morning. Like a hard belly laugh. I tried it this morning and I felt really weird at first. I’ve never laughed for no reason and that sensation was strange. Also, I felt that my wife may find me strange, so I was insecure about my own laughter! So very strange.
I pushed through the weirdness and let out a pretty good laugh. It felt good! Something about hearing my own laughter and the feeling of it just made me feel lighter. I couldn’t help but keep smiling afterwards. I like this!
Try it out for yourselves. See how you feel. It’s amazing how something as small as our own laughter can have such an impact on our feelings of well-being.
“The more time you spend invalidating your process, which usually involves invalidating your mistakes and challenges, the longer that process will take. In other words, the fastest way to solve a challenge or to learn from a mistake is to accept it and work with it.”—
“I’m thankful for who I was because it provides a brilliant contrast to who I now am.
I’m thankful for the experience of my old, negative responses to Life and the negative consequences of those responses.
I’m thankful for my moments of ugliness.
I’m thankful for my mistakes and my failures.
I’m thankful for my moments of fearful or hateful reactions.
I’m thankful for my moments of self-hatred.
I’m thankful for my moments of pessimism.
I’m thankful for my moments of confusion and loneliness.
I’m thankful for the moments when I didn’t appreciate Life at all.
I’m thankful for the moments when I treated others unkindly.
I’m thankful for the moments when I put more emphasis on others’ opinions rather than my own.
I’m thankful for my moments of dishonesty.
I’m thankful for the moments when I invalidated the moment.
I’m thankful for the moments when I thought something outside me will complete me or give me lasting happiness.
I’m thankful for the moments when I didn’t follow my joy and instead avoided it.
I’m thankful for my misunderstandings.
I’m thankful for the moments when I wasn’t thankful.
I’m thankful in advance for the mistakes I may now make because I know they will lead to greater and greater clarity.
I’m thankful for all of my old self because I wouldn’t be so clear about who I now choose to be if I didn’t previously have the experience of choosing to be who I didn’t want to be.
I’m thankful that I’ve already been down the dark road and that I already know where it leads, so I also know there is no need to follow it any longer.”—