Your feeling of guilt or shame is your attempt to create a positive self through denial. This never truly works though, because your denial is an admittance that you contain that which you seek to deny. In other words, you can never escape that which makes you feel guilty or shameful. Those aspects are a part of your being, no matter how much you wished they weren’t. So the guilt will never go away until you accept yourself fully.
It is acceptance of yourself- your whole self- that brings out the true goodness in you- not denial. A truly positive self is created out of an unconditional acceptance of yourself. Denial and the guilt or shame behind it keeps you from accepting the goodness of life. It keeps you from feeling worthy of being loved and accepted. When you don’t feel worthy of accepting goodness then you won’t receive it, and you definitely won’t have any goodness to share with anybody else. You won’t feel truly happy and you won’t be able to share anything other than misery to anybody else. This then has the potential to create a cycle of misery and continued guilt, for you and the people close to you.
So the way to create a truly joyful experience and a truly joyful world is to let go of guilt and shame. Nobody is undeserving of the goodness of life, because nobody is separate from that which they think makes them undeserving. Life knows this and supports you as you truly are- the being that includes the portions of yourself you try to deny. You were created and are supported unconditionally. There is no part of you that offends the universe or life or god. When you realize this, and accept yourself fully, you’ll be kind to yourself. When you’re kind to yourself you will allow others and the universe itself to be kind to you. When you allow the universe to be kind to you, you will find very little reason to be unhappy. You will feel unconditionally supported, because you are! You are supported in the belief of your own unworthiness, because that part of you is equally worthy and valid in the universe’s eyes!
Finally, when you have felt and absorbed this unconditional love and support, you will also be kind to others because you’ll see their own true integrated nature and unconditional deservability. This is the basis of creating an unconditionally loving experience, and an experience that mirrors the unconditionally loving nature of life.